It is true that men generally have great expectations from their ideal women – there are some unique features and attributes he desires and some others he cannot tolerate or withstand.
It is also true that as men are different, so are their preferences for
their women. While some men like independent women who are very
ambitious; some prefers women with good character, while others simply
want women who can satisfy them sexually.
Here are some things men desires from their women:
Adewole Okesina wants his woman to be presentable and one that possesses a good home training.
He said” She should know how to relate with people and always respect me
in the presence of others. She should be ready to face anything that
comes our way whether good or bad.”
For ladies who do not know how to cook, Okesina will not consider. Hear him:”She must be a good cook and let me know whenever she is offended so there won’t be quarrels.
Having been married for years, Mr. Femi Dada is of the opinion that
men prefer women that will care for them anytime. Apart from being
caring, Dada wants his woman to “be God fearing, decent and neat. She
should always take care of her environment.”
According to Dada, men are faced with challenges at work and then come home feeling bothered wanting to share with their spouse.
He urged a woman that has a listening ear to listen to whatever bothers
her husband so he can be relieved, “A woman that will take me for who I
am and accommodate my shortcomings is what I need. An unselfish woman
that values children and one that will care for my extended family. Not
just someone that will say ‘I and my husband alone,” he added.
Not ruling out the spiritual aspect to relationships, Dada advises husbands and wives to have the love and fear for God.
Like Dada, Mr. Henry Mgbeme wants a woman that is caring and supportive.
A woman who will not depend on him for everything she needs nor engage
in worldly activities.
For Mgbeme, he wants a modest woman. “I prefer her simple and modest – I would not like my woman to use jewellery.”
Going the African tradition, Mr. Atumeyi Uwanni, a married man for
years, prefer a woman well nurtured in her traditions and must not be
canal. This he says is a typical African woman.
Speaking further, Uwanni said “A man can be flirt, known to the woman
but she can absorb and manage. But no man can manage the flirt character
of a woman.
Also, Uwanni, frowns at women with low hygiene manners.
He advised that such a woman should strive to imbibe healthy lifestyle.
Uwanni was also of the view that, “A woman should be good in all ramifications.”
For those women who do not exhibit good character, he advised that such a
woman should read the last chapter of the Book of Proverbs as a
guideline to managing her home.
To him,” Marriage is friendship. Friendship is companionship.
Companionship is what a man looks out for in a woman. If there is no
relationship, there is no fellowship. The relationship between the
spouses metamorphoses into fellowship.”
For nagging and callous women, Uwanni says such persons are not
welcome by men. Such women, he says will not welcome a man’s ‘people’
and friends into his house.
Uwanni therefore proposes for love in a relationship. This he says
covers a multitude of sin. Love, he pointed out, should not be only in
bed but also outside bed.
On his part, Henry Ose wants a sincere woman that he can trust anywhere, anytime and any day.
He said “Women can fool men to the brim if they want to. A girl giving
her body doesn’t guarantee her love for you. She might as well be
“I don’t want a woman that will still have feelings for her ex-lover because she would never want to let him go,” Ose added.
Reeling the preferences he wants in a woman, Lanre Bello said that he
wants a woman from a good background, Christian with a good behavior
that can accommodate his friends and people.
Bello did not also fail to mention that his ideal woman “must be a good
cook and be very good in bed. For, if she is an amateur, then it’s going
to be hell for the man.”
Dami Israel Ojo wants a woman of good character. To him: “It is not
all about the beauty or make-up. The good character is the beauty of a
woman and this is what will stand the test of time when the beauty would
have gone. This is what builds up a good family.”
Ojo also craves for a woman that is very understanding, “I want a
woman with understanding. She should understand my type of person, for I
am a very stubborn and aggressive type.”